I caught my boyfriend on internet casual encounters site. About a week ago i caught my boyfriend on a causal encounters web site. At that time i was furious and demanded him to show me his email account. He wouldn't - I was so close to break things off, but let it go for the time being since i had no proof. Vindictive self that i am, i posted one and placed my picture, just for the fun of it, and to show him what it feels like, i I found my bf on a hookup website hundreds of replies and showed him all of them, but never replied or took any of them seriously.
However, last night at 3am I went into his email the dummass left it open in my computer and found out he's been sending pictures, receiving them and replying to a few of these posts.
I went ballistic, it was horrible I was done, but he wouldn't leave my apartment. His "excuse" was that he only does it when he gets drunk or bored, but swears on anything and everything that he's never met any of these girls. I was cold as ice, i wouldn't turn back to even look at him, he kept declaring his eternal love until he cried and begged me not to break up with him.
Or "I found my bf on a hookup website" i would have taken extreme measures as to calling the cops. He's still a bastard and i don't know what i'm gonna do. I know he truly loves me, and i'm mad in love with him Am i overreacting here?
Even though he swears he's never cheated on me He was definitely planning on it! Is this reason enough to break things off? I feel like giving him another chance and then doing the same thing he did to me Or else it wouldn't be even and square. I need quick advice before he comes back to my place tonight, even though i told him NOT TO and that i needed some space. Share Share this post on Digg Del.
Last edited by LoveShack. Sounds to me like someone's testing the waters. Or, like he said, maybe he's just bored and drunk, as if that really holds water. Is he bored with you?
How often is he drunk? And can't he find something else to do besides look at the personals? Maybe he hasn't met anyone "yet", but come on now. I definitely wouldn't put up with it. The two of you need to talk Are you dating my ex-bf???
He left his email open, and i saw it. He had met up with one and had sex. My ex said it only happened once, but upon checking with my guy friends. Whatever the case, it is WAY inappropriate for a guy with a gf. Best of luck girl. I've been there, I know it hurts. First of all, he had been warned that you would not tolerate this kind of nonsense.
That he did not dare to let you read the replies he got, is a big red flag. It would be his job to reassure you nothing was going on, and the only way to do that is by letting you read his messages. You gave him a second chance. Second of all, you repaid him in kind by putting your own picture up, and allowing him to read all the responses you got. Not exactly the classiest thing to do, but it should have made your boyfriend come to his senses.
Third of all, he let himself be caught with the intent of cheating. The cheating is an assumption, but considering the nature of his actions you can be dern certain that he was not out I found my bf on a hookup website play a game of backgammon. If you want to make friends over the internet, it is possible. But it does not require posting of nude pictures, nor any lame sexual innuendo to people on the internet.
He may be testing the waters, or whatever.
He may subconciously feel he wants to get out of the relationship, or whatever motive is driving him. It seems as if he wants the benefits of your relationship, without the boundaries you agreed upon. He had been warned you would not tolerate this behavior. So don't tolerate it, and prepare for a break-up conversation.
He had his chance and blew it. Please be firm and break things of. You gave him a second chance on the issue, and he blew it in a matter of days. What do you expect from giving him a third chance? Last edited by d'Arthez; 24th February at 8: Everyone has a "fantasy life" and the web seems to be the place that people exercise it in a pseudo-real way, thinking there are no consequences. I've read somewhere that we reach out for the things we most desire when we are bored, and of that is your boyfriend's excuse!!!!
Does boredom or drunkeness both of which release desires we normally repress justify certain actions? Would you take that same excuse if he did actually cheat on you?
To me, it's a lame excuse, because it's both taking responsibility for something and rejecting responsibilty at the same time. This is perfectly human a response, and it's up to the both of you to come to terms with these ambiguities. Your boyfriend could equally love you and have fantasies outside your relationship, but if he is actively posting, exchanging photos and messages, than I think he has crossed a certain line of an "innocent" fantasy life. It's one thing to look and even looking can be problematic but to exchange photos and info.
How hard and fast would he draw that line when he has a sexy picture? Possibly an address to go to? Sorry to carry out this chain, but you see what I mean? Have you seen his ad? What is he looking for anyways? It sounds like he wants his ego stroked for now, and it seems that if you talk it out AFTER you take a long, hard look at how happy your truly are in this relationship you can come to a mutual understanding.
So, if you don't wanna let him into the house, you should feel perfectly fine in letting yourself figure out your feelings about the matter. He denied it was for reasons of actively wanting to cheat, but mere curiousity. I think that the internet is a weird place for the deepest subconscious of I found my bf on a hookup website human mind to I found my bf on a hookup website out.
But when it is "found" most people do not want that deep, dark place to be a part of their normal lives. My advice is to either fix it or head for the hills Let me tell you something about the internet.
This may seem ironic, given the format we are writing in, but the computer can be a very dangerous weapon. It is waaaaaaay to impersonal for people to just be diddlying their "bored" nights away on it. Unfortunately I have some experience here that sounds much like your situation. My fiance and I have been together for a year I found my bf on a hookup website a half now.
Since we met he was always very big into porn, and the whole IMing nation, and chat rooms. Not exactly the most tasteful habits, but it never really bothered me. I had friends online, and he and I watched dirty movies together so I didn't think I had anything to worry "I found my bf on a hookup website." Now you see, I am a very open minded person but about a year ago, my fiance was telling me about one of his "online friends" and I came to find out that she was the star of her very own website.
That's when things started to make me uncomfortable. No more than a week later, I'm on OUR computer I find saved messages between he and different women he's chatting with.
In these conversations, he was flirting, leaving me out of the picture when they'd hit on him, and even worse telling them what website he had just masterbated to!
I called him at work and again, we had it out, I cried then he cried. I found my bf on a hookup website course, he begged that we resolve our issues are you beginning to see the pattern. This is what happens with he and I. Sure, I do trust that he would not step out of our relationship and have intercourse with someone, but then where do we draw the line when it comes to respect?
Not all men, but a lot of them think the same way your boyfriend and my fiance do. It's this exciting "breaking the rules" mentality that they are born with. Think about it this way, have you ever had sex somewhere you aren't supposed to? Like in your car in a not so empty parking lot? If so, how did it feel? It probably felt unbelievable. Maybe gave you a little knot in your stomach that said "what on earth are you doing!?! This month, we asked the question: "Someone saw my boyfriend on a dating site.
He swears he never acted on anything, just browsed. Normal. My boyfriend and I didn't necessarily hook up the first time we met but we up for a long time before we decided that we were officially dating. I wrote about husbands using dating sites well before the recent Ashley Madison outing. It is not easy to hear that your husband would not have strayed if your.